We are talking some more about RESILIENCE! Like the baby sea star thriving like a boss in the big sea, resilience is about having the ability to cope with whatever life throws at us! Resilient is the word that describes those of us that can be knocked down by life and return stronger than ever.
A resilient person works through challenges by using their strengths, resources, and other positive affects such as hope, optimism, and self-efficacy (the ability to control your motivation and behavior). Overcoming a crisis by resiliency is often described as “bouncing back” to a normal or improved state of functioning.
That’s cool, but how do I become more resilient?
Even if your childhood wasn’t ideal for the development of resilience: it’s never too late! Being resilient can be learned with practice. It is simply this: don’t perceive a moment of crisis like it is the end of the world, but rather, see it as a learning experience and a chance for you to grow and develop into an even more amazing person.
The major point in learning resilience is to look at things from a different perspective. In moments of stress, place your individual situation into *the bigger picture* to get a grasp on its real severity, or the lack thereof.
“If you can’t change it, just change the way you think about it”
A short resilience exercise:
Let’s say you are dealing with a problem. Now imagine the place you are in right now and slowly zoom out of yourself, as though you were the camera of a drone, then zoom out of the building you’re in, out of the city, the state, the country and even the continent. Once you’re high in the sky, zoom out even further, beyond the atmosphere until your back is against the moon and you are looking at the whole friggin’ earth. Now think about that problem again, how big is it really?
When you strengthen your resilience, you don’t label failure as something bad, instead you start to see it as helpful feedback and motivation to work harder, get better, and be happier!
YOUR MISSIONS, if you choose to accept them…
1. Pick an experience to savor each day for a week.
What the heck does that mean? Okay, so *savoring* is the act of focusing and absorbing everything you can about an experience to get the most out of it. Often, we fail to stay in the moment and really enjoy what we’re experiencing.
Some examples: going for a swim, eating a delicious meal, a great walk outside, petting your cat, dog, or turtle – any experience that you really enjoy.
When you take part in a savored experience, think of ways to enhance the savoring. You can share the experience with another person, think about how lucky you are to enjoy such an amazing moment, or keep a souvenir or photo of that activity, and really make sure you stay in the present moment the entire time.
Make a note of what you savored each day, to reflect on them at the end of the week.
2. Take five or more minutes each day to write down three things in your life for which you are grateful (for a week.. or longer).
These can be little things or big things, but you really gotta focus on them, and actually write them down. You can write just one word or short phrases, whatever makes sense to you.
Please share in the comments, if you’d like! I would love to hear about your experiences and gratitudes.